First: you’ve done good, raising a kid that asks for your permission first.

Second: realize that this comes from peer pressure, them wanting a space away from parental supervision. If you truly want to make your kids savvy about the Internet, you need to assume they will eventually encounter seedy places, run into assholes, and be exposed to things like bullying.

Have a conversation: you will encounter these things. Your friends may be into them. But they can have bad effects and here is how you avoid it and how to deal if it happens to you. Talk about keeping private information private.

Be open and non-judgemental. You want them to feel safe coming to you for advice.

Be truthful and stay credible. Keep up with what’s out there, but don’t just buy into the latest Tiktok scare.

Talk to your kids about stuff they found that was cool or scary.

Embarrass them by using memes incorrectly.

Setting up a mastodon instance may be cool at first, but their friends are going to think it’s lame with the supervision. You could still do it for a number of other reasons, but it won’t prepare them for the ugly Internet.

Source: me, a parent.

Growing up in Norway, where roads are narrow, days are short, and snow piles up above a second grader’s head, we were taught to use sidewalks, when they are available, or walk on the left (we drive on the right). I think it’s supposed to make it easier to see oncoming traffic and get out of the way.

More importantly, though, was to wear reflective clothing. As a driver: please for the love of God don’t go running in a black track suit along a dark country road early in the morning. You’re not a fucking ninja. Wear something reflective.

Edit: I looked it up and it’s actually in the law.

Yaml editor? Business therapist? Email author? Paid meeting actor? Scrum participant? Office cynic? Idk.

This is a great answer. I will just add that KDE in general exposes more settings in the UI than stock Gnome (but Gnome Tweaks is a thing). If you are the kind if user that just sticks with the defaults, Gnome is probably less confusing to use and what I recommend, but I personally prefer KDE because I like to tweak things.

I know it’s ELI5, but this is a common misconception and will lead you astray. They do not have the same level of isolation, and they have very different purposes.

For example, containers are disposable cattle. You don’t backup containers. You backup volumes and configuration, but not containers.

Containers share the kernel with the host, so your container needs to be compatible with the host (though most dependencies are packaged with images).

For self hosting maybe the difference doesn’t matter much, but there is a difference.

Try to come across friendly without sounding condescending.

First, empathize (I know those things can be tricky, it took me a minute the first time), then offer to help without judgement (I have some experience with these, would you like me to try?), then back off if they say no.

If they refuse help, you’ve done what you can, end of story. Don’t be pushy.

Key point here is to be nice about it. Don’t call them out or make them feel dumb. Don’t judge. You don’t know why they’re not getting it, and next time maybe it is you who is “dumb”.

Also, don’t expect everyone to share your intellect (it’s obvious to you) or curiosity (you want to know how it works). Most people just want their problem fixed and move on.

They can and do try to share malware, but distros and software hubs take measures to prevent it. You can read about Flathub’s approach in Flathub Safety: A Layered Approach from Source to User

That’s a great tip! It turns out I must have already tried some of that. I found multiple settings in about:config. Anything with a file picker works (open, save as), but the “open folder” from the Downloads dialog must just not use xdg-open, since none of the settings had an effect on that. It’s not the end of the world, but it would be nice to have my Dolphin bookmarks and places.

Edit: Adding this here in case someone in the future finds this searching for the problem. It looks like I’m bitten by the bug described in comment 55 (near the bottom) of this Firefox bug report. TL;DR: it works if I have Dolphin open already, but if not, it starts Nautilus. While this isn’t great, at least I have a workaround.

See if a light weight kubernetes installation is for you. Secrets are first class citizens in k8s. You can maintain secrets in a number of different ways, but they are exposed to containers the same way. They can become files or environment variables, whether you need.

I recommend looking at k3s to run on your Pi and see if that works for you. You can add vault software on top of that later without changing your containers.

Thank you for replying, very informative. I think I have most of the actions/types I wanted associated with my preferred ones now. The most noticeable one is Firefox when I open downloads from the menu. I’m not sure if Firefox uses xdg or not? I don’t mind GTK or Gnome at all, in fact I probably have spent more time on Gnome, but I do like when things are consistent.

Looking forward to this. I do have a question for the more seasoned people here: I installed Fedora 41 not too long after its release on a new PC, which has been my daily driver every since. Very happy with it, tweaked everything to my liking. However, by mistake I installed Workstation (with Gnome) and then switched to my preferred KDE Plasma as the DE. This has left some corners of my system with the Gnome look and feel, which is fine, but I prefer if it were more consistent.

My question:

1. Can I/do you recommend that I upgrade Fedora in place? I prefer this if it means I don’t have to reinstall everything.
2. Or do you recommend I do a fresh install anyway for a clean upgrade and at the same time clean up my DE? What is the least disruptive way to do this?

No offense taken at all. I just agree it’s a sad state of affairs.

I don’t mean to be a doomer and I do try to give my kids more than a black and white picture. I’m not a parent who tells them to just suck it up. I support them every step of the way.

But I do try to keep their expectations realistic. I think it’s fair to let them know that what they see in glossy college ads isn’t typical.

Finding a job you actually like can be hard. Working 40 hours a week can be hard. But eventually you will manage it. It’s not glamorous, but it pays the rent.

Usually you have to play the cards you were dealt while you look for better opportunities. Few people can afford to be out of work for a long time. I consider myself very lucky to be able to sit here right now and discuss work/life balance on Lemmy, rather than trolling the Internet for jobs.

Yes, it is. But it’s the reality of being a working stiff in America today.

I have a kid who’s just starting full time work out of college. I’ll tell you what I told them: you’ll get used to it. You will eventually settle into the habit and it becomes routine.

However, there will be tough times where you need to work hard to motivate yourself to go to work. Those happen.

What works for me during those times is the same that works for me exercising (which I hate): one step, one mile, one day at a time. Tell yourself it’s just one more day to the weekend or to vacation. Have something to look forward to.

Burnout also happens. What works for me there, is to draw an absolutely strict line between work and life. You need to fight for your work/life balance. Maintain friendships outside the office.

When you’re not working, try to do something not related at all to work. If that’s working on improving your health, that’s even better. A healthy body and healthy mind has more energy. Do literally anything except working or thinking about work. If you can’t turn it off, practice setting boundaries until you can.

Finally, and this surprised me as I realized that all the stupid corny stuff we do in the office: luncheons, raffles, TGIF, “just another day in paradise”, and that, are coping mechanisms. Play along, but don’t get sucked into a negativity spiral. Humor can be a great stress reliever, but watch out for HR watchdogs.

Are you telling me Beowulf clusters are back?

Jokes aside, it depends what you want to do. You can’t really build one powerful gaming PC out of multiple, but your can run parallel workloads in a number of different ways. What exactly, comes down to what you’re doing. A kubernetes cluster is different from a Blender render farm, for example.

As others mentioned you can just remote into the servers with ssh, vnc, rdp, etc. if you want physical displays on them, you can look for a cheap KVM which lets you control multiple PCs with one keyboard, monitor, and mouse.

This is not correct.

If you compile GPL licensed code and distribute the binaries, you are still obligated to make that source available under the same license, with your changes.

In the case of GPL, but not all open source licenses, this even applies if you link to (compile with) the GPL code from your own. The MIT license on the other hand, comes with almost no obligations.

What RedHat and others do is add support, services, and their own proprietary programs on top of the open source. The open source parts of that distro is and always will be free as in both beer and speech.

The non-free packages are often distributed via separate repositories to make the distinction clear.

That is just one way to fund open source software and is sometimes referred to as the RedHat model.

What OP is asking about is the donation model to fund software. You’re not required to donate, but if you enjoy the software and you can afford it, then there is your opportunity to give back.

As someone else pointed out, hosting and bandwidth isn’t free, so it’s important for these projects to find some revenue stream to pay for that.

The distinction is between bare metal and virtual machine. Most cloud deployments will be hosted in a virtual machine, inside which you host your containers.

So the nested dolls go:

• bare metal (directly on hardware)
• virtual machine (inside a hypervisor)
• container (inside Docker, podman, containers, etc.)
• runtime (jvm, v8, clr, etc) (unless your code is in C, Rust, or other such language)
• your code

HostGator. They raised their prices by quite a bit last time I renewed. So I contacted them and complained. After a while they came back with a “special” offer to renew at the old price but I had to accept it right then. I felt like I wasn’t gonna get a better deal and it wasn’t my money anyway, so I accepted.

Got the price they offered but they renewed it two months ahead of when it was due, so it ended up costing the same anyway, because now it will be up for renewal sooner. I will be moving away from them before the next renewal.

TL;DR: HostGator can fuck right off

After getting fed up with Windows I finally returned to Linux desktop as my daily driver. I have used Linux for servers and to keep old computers usable just a little longer, but I couldn’t make the switch because I used Adobe and played games.

So, with I finally had enough and switched to Fedora, arguably a boring distro, I was pleasantly surprised how well my games run on it. The killer feature is that it gets out of my way and it just works.

I owe Valve a lot of gratitude for putting all that work into making gaming work on Linux. I could not have switched without it. I hope the trend continues.

I create a cron job with something like: docker system prune -af --filter="until=XXh" where XX is on the order of a few days.